Every relationship is unique, and this is even more true for polyamorous relationships – what works for someone else may not work for you (or the other way around, of course!) Assumptions lead to misunderstandings (and often quite a bit of drama). We’re hoping to make polyamory easy by giving you the tools you need to discuss your needs and boundaries with your partners.
What topics are explored in the Polyamory Conversation cards?
The cards have 7 categories (each containing 7 questions): Autonomy & Sharing, Communication, Emotional Safety, Relationship Structures, Sexuality, Dealing With Challenges, and Practicalities. Each categories helps you explore & discuss what you’re looking for in your relationships, and hopefully find common ground.
I’m monogamish/in an open relationship/practicing some other form of consensual non-monogamy. Can I still use the Polyamory Conversation Cards?
You can! Although some questions won’t be relevant to your specific dynamic, you can use these cards with any non-monogamy dynamic.
Me and my partner are looking for a third person to join our relationship. Are these cards right for us?
The Polyamory Conversation Cards will help you both in your conversations together and in conversations with any potential third who’d consider joining the dynamic. We also have a blog specifically for couples looking to add a third person to their relationship. We highly recommend reading it!
Can I use the Polyamory Conversation cards if I’m monogamous?
We’ve heard of multiple monogamous people who said a lot of the questions are also really relevant for their relationships. Some other questions are focused on polyamory and other forms of ethical non-monogamy specifically. If you’re looking for a card game that helps you discuss important matters without focusing on polyamory, check out our Vision Cards for Your Relationship.
Can I use the Polyamory Conversation cards if I only have one relationship at the moment?
Absolutely! The amount of partners you have at the moment doesn’t matter. In fact, these questions are a great starting point if you’re considering opening up an existing relationship. You could use them with your existing partner, as well as any new partners.
Can I use the Polyamory Conversation cards if I don’t have a relationship at the moment?
Yes! Although they are originally intended as conversation cards, the questions are also great to help you figure out what you’re looking for in your relationships. When you understand the things that make you happy, as well as the things that don’t work for you, it’s easier to figure out who could be a compatible partner when you’re dating.
Are you offering the Polyamory Conversation Cards in other languages?
At the moment, we only have the physical cards in English. The pdf edition is available in both English and French (thanks to our amazing translators, Jean-Charles & Rébecca). If you’re looking for the pdf in a different language, shoot us a message and we’ll try to make it happen!
I wish the Polyamory Conversation Cards had free shipping!
We get that – shipping costs suck (and not in a good way)! We’re trying to keep the shipping as affordable as possible, but our margins are pretty low, so unfortunately, we can’t offer free shipping on all orders. If you’re in the Netherlands, you get free shipping for orders of €30+ and outside of the Netherlands it’s free shipping when you order for €60+ – one way to save on shipping is to join forces with your friends and order multiple copies, or you could order several products, such as our Vision Cards for Your Relationship, Connection Compass, and Boundary Launchpad. Alternatively, you could also order the Polyamory Cards pdf edition and print your cards at home – no shipping involved, you can download the cards instantly!
What if I want both the physical cards AND the pdf?
We have a great deal for that! Just grab our Polyamory Conversation Cards bundle!
Who made the Polyamory Conversation Cards?
All questions are developed by Marianna Zelichenko, the founder of Odder Being. Most card decks are illustrated by different artists. The polyamory conversation cards are illustrated by @the.artful.iriz, a queer & polyamorous artist from the Netherlands.
Lynn –
People say the key to success in poly is talking about everything. Well, what do you talk about? Often people venturing into poly for the first time encounter tons of triggers and problems because “you don’t know what you don’t know.” This helps take the edge off, in my mind – reduce the number of /unexpected/ problems. Next time I consider taking on a new partner they and I will do the whole deck. An irreplaceable tool. Well done!
Jean-Charles Meunier –
I am very happy that I bought this deck of cards. The questions are varied and very useful, the design pleasant. Well done! It’s a very good idea to have several themes (relationship structures, communication, sexuality…), so that you can choose to leave out those you are not interested in discussing on that occasion. The box is nice and sturdy, so that you can easily keep the cards in your pocket without damaging them. I just love it <3 … and looking forward to the French version as well!
Linda van der Zwan (verified owner) –
My partner and I are already really comfortable with talking about serious topics, but these cards make it even better!
Isa (verified owner) –
Nice choice of cards with lots of interesting questions for polyamorous folks.
Kaia (verified owner) –
Excellent conversation starters
Daniele Corsini (verified owner) –
I just played once for now, but I like those cards very much! I also have Constellation, and those questions are a bit too much for monogamous friends. These cards offer a better introduction to the world, and stimulates nice conversations, talking about taboos. Recommended!