Polyamory Resources: The Ultimate List

If you’re getting into polyamory, you might be looking for great books to read, bloggers to follow, and communities to join. We’ve compiled a list with a whole bunch of polyamory resources that will help you find your info and people! Are we missing anything important? Submit your resource.

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Must-Reads for Beginners

Whenever people start out in polyamory, there are invariably two resources they are linked to.

The Most Skipped Step in Opening Up talks about becoming your own person before dating other people.
The website Unicorns ‘R Us describes the problems and challenges with so-called Unicorn Hunting, couples looking for a third (usually a bisexual woman) to join them.
We’d like to add a third, less-known article: The Tower and the Village by Eve Rickert describes how seemingly valid reasons can be used to obscure underlying issues in an attempt to control other people.

Polyamory Books

Books are a great resource if you’re looking for in-depth information, whether on a specific topic or Many of these books are also available as a digital edition or audio book!

The Ethical Slut by Janet W. Hardy is essentially a guide into non-monogamy. It explores how you can have multiple intimate relationships at the same time. Ethically.
The Jealousy Workbook by Kathy Labriola. Jealousy is probably the most anticipated challenge of non-monogamy. In this workbook, you tackle your jealousy before it tackles you. Practical exercises all the way!
PolySecure by Jessica Fern. Ever heard of attachment theory? This theory states that dynamics from early on in our lives determine our relationships later. PolySecure plots the attachment theory onto polyam relationships.
PolyWise by Jessica Fern. Want to go beyond attachment styles? PolyWise is more of a polyamory guide, with a strong emphasis on personal growth.
The Anxious Person’s Guide to Non-Monogamy by Lola Phoenix. Just because you’re non-monogamous, doesn’t mean you can’t be anxious. And just because you’re anxious, doesn’t mean you’re bad at polyamory. This book will help you address anxiety in your relationships.
More Than Two (2nd Edition) by Eve Rickert & Andrea Zanin – Although this book was one of the best-known in the world of polyamory, it was also subject to a lot of controversy (especially as one of its authors, Franklin Veaux, was accused of abuse). However, in 2024 a new edition came out, written solely by Eve Rickert (whose article we also shared in our must-reads) and a new co-author. For one, this new edition tackles heteronormativity, so check it out!

Polyamory Content Creators & Influencers

Do you like having a familiar face to talk to? You might relate to one of these content creators!

Genevieve King (ChillPolyamory) is one of the best-known and respected names in polyamory. Her thoughtful and nuanced reels are a great way to learn more! Genevieve is on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok. She also has a podcast and a Patreon.
Libby Sinback (ThatPolyamMom) is another nuanced voice in the polyam world. As her handle suggests, she’s not just polyamorous – she’s a parent, too. Having kids can add a whole new dimension to polyamory. If you’re a parent, too, you’ll enjoy her insightful content. Libby is on Instagram and also has her own podcast.
Leanne Yau (PolyPhiliaBlog) creates energetic content that advocates for polyam folks and encourages them to embrace their sexuality. You can find them on a bunch of channels, such as Instagram, TikTok, YouTube & Threads. They also have a Patreon.
Sarah Stroh (Monogamish Me). Sarah shares her honest experiences and contemplations in the world of non-monogamy. You’ll find her on Instagram, Medium, Substack.

(Want us to add you to this list? Let us know! Please note: You need to have at least 1000 followers on one of your platforms and at least 10 new posts in the last 6 months)

Polyamory Blogs

Looking for regular posts on polyamory and adjacent topics? Why not check out these blogs!

Polyamory Today on Medium is a publication for posts on polyamory. The posts are written by different authors, so you get different perspectives!
Minka Guides writes about relationships, queerness, and culture. All the good stuff!
Coffee & Kink doesn’t just write about coffee and – you guessed it – kink. There’s a lot of polyamory blogs (and we’re proud to say many of them are based on our conversation cards!)
Ready for Polyamory by Laura Boyle offers a lot of practical advice for your own polyamorous relationships.
And of course, we blog a lot about polyamory, too – you’ll find a whole bunch of information, ranging from non-hierarchy to boundaries (and everything in between).

Polyamory Podcasts

Want to learn about polyamory while driving or doing the dishes? A podcast might be just the thing for you. How about these?

“I could Never” is the new podcast by Genevieve King from ChillPolyamory. In it, she and her partner interview different people about the way they practice polyamory. The result? A beautiful collection of stories showing the diversity of polyamorous relationships!
MultiAmory has over 500 episodes and is probably the best-known polyamory podcast out there. This podcast addresses all kinds of polyamory challenges and features a lot of interviews with experts.
Non-Monogamy Help is Lola Phoenix’ podcast. The name speaks for itself. Like its creator’s book, it’s focused on helping you practice polyamory, even when things aren’t always easy.
Making Polyamory Work is Libby Sinback’s podcast. Again, the name is pretty self-explanatory, and some of the guests are big names. Emily Nagoski (author of Come As You Are) and Genevieve King, to name a few.

Polyamory Tools & Games

Reading, listening, and watching is all great. Want something more practical? These tools and games are just what you need!

Constellations Board Game by Play Gender Games is a game that helps you explore realistic polyamory scenarios before they actually happen. The game is available in both English and French and has a gorgeous design.
Odder Being Polyamory Conversation Cards (yep, this one is ours) is a game with almost 50 questions that help you get clear on what your ideal polyamorous relationships look like. It’s also available as a print-your-own pdf.
The Non-Monogamy Card Game is a game with questions to help you explore what you want in polyamory with 150 questions in a beautifully designed box.
The Boundary Card Game by Exquisite Love. This is a game that helps you discuss various scenarios and find your boundaries.

Polyamory Communities

Looking for others to share your experiences or ask for advice?

/r/Polyamory (Reddit group) One of the biggest polyamory communities online. Since it’s reddit, it’s easier to be anonymous. However, many people have reported being censored by moderators. The anonymity also means it’s easier for people to say things they probably wouldn’t say in your face.
/r/NonMonogamy (Reddit group) Another Reddit group. This one is open to all open relationship styles, whether love is involved or not.
/r/polyfamilies (Reddit group) And yet another Reddit group. It’s focused specifically on long-term commitments and generally is a bit more gentle.
Polyamory Discussion (Facebook Group) Probably the best place to ask for Polyamory advice (aside from qualified therapists and your own heart). Questions can be asked anonymously and there are several active and committed members who are ready to offer a variety of perspectives.
Polyamory Memes (Facebook Group) is less about the serious side of polyamory and more about FUN!
Sounds Like Accidental Polyamory (Facebook Group) isn’t a polyamory group per se, but is a great place to spot things that could totally be polyamory.

(To submit a resource in this category, the group/community needs to have at least 1000 members and have at least 10 non-admin posts in the last week)

Polyamory Dating Apps

Looking for new connections?

OKCupid is one of the most popular dating sites/apps for people looking for a serious commitment. While it’s not polyamory-only it’s very popular with non-monogamous and queer folks. You also get match suggestions based by your answers to various questions.
Feeld positions itself as “the dating app for open-minded individuals”. In practice, this means you’ll find a lot of people interested in kink. You’ll also find a lot of “package deal” man-woman couples looking for a bisexual woman to join them.
#Open is a dating app focused specifically on non-monogamy. It’s an app that tried to represent modern dating – with the full spectrum of identities & sexual preferences.
Hiki is a dating & friendship app for neurodivergent folks (autistic, ADHD, etc.) with channels on different interests (and guess what – one is polyamory). Now there’s a huge overlap between neurodivergence and polyamory (for multiple reasons, but more on that in our blog), so Hiki might just be the place for you!

Submit Other Polyamory Resources

Want to submit a resource? Send an email to polyamresources@odderbeing.com. Please keep in mind the following:

If your resource isn’t explicitly focused on polyamorous people, please explain why it’s relevant to the polyamory community.
For influencers, blogs and podcasts – please make sure the resource is still active (at least 10 new items in the last 6 months).
Influencers need to have at least 1000 followers on one of their platforms.
Communities need to have at least 1000 members and 10 non-admin posts in the last week.
Books & Tools/Games: please share a (digital) copy for review.

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